How many times I catch myself saying this. But what I keep reminding myself of, is that we make our choices based on the information we have at the time. And becoming fixed on wishing things were different because we know something new now, only wastes valuable time in the present.
It’s good to reflect to be able to learn of our own behaviours, and to be able to offer insight into the present, but we must use this reflection as a tool and not lament what could have been different. It doesn’t serve us.